As what i promised danica, I posted this entry as endearment to her previous entry on love. Love is a very powerful human emotion that is hard to define. It can make a person undergo various emotions - happy, sad, elated, depressed, lonely, lively, frustrated, etc. depending on the situation and circumstance around a person.Find out and assess yourself if you have experienced how it is to love and to be loved.
SIGNS OF LOVE
Abiding sense of comradeship - there is a spirit of mutual thoughtfulness, an eagerness to understand each other. Sweethearts and pals. They enjoy being together. When they are absent from each other, each is in the background of the other's thoughts.
Feeling that life has been lifted to a higher level - they inspire each other to new hopes, new virtues, honor and loyalty, all of these providing them stability.
Putting sexual feelings in perspective - ordinarily, there is a stirring of sexual desires. This is not uncleanness. The reactions will be curbed, to control, to manage this desire. Love curbs the crude and selfish.
Confidence and trust - two person in love learn they can count on each one at all times.
SIGNS OF INFATUATION
It is stubborn and refuses to reason - "It is my free choice. No one is going to tell me."
It is unrealistic - "If our relationship works out, it will enable me to do everything."
It is sentimental - "I can't live without you."
It is a very jealous affection - The desire to be loved is more prominent than the desire to love.
The partners treat each other like spoiled children.
The feelings is overwhelming - The person just finds himself "falling in love."
Physical attraction based on looks - No similarities in upbringing, education, religion, race and even economic levels.
Believes in "love at first sight" and "love is blind".
TESTING THE GENUINENESS OF LOVEPresence test - Are you comfortable with the one you love? Are you proud to be seen with the other person?
Physical test - Would you love the other person just as much if there should be a handicap or disfigured body?
Sharing test - Can you confide in the other person freely with complete confidence?
Strength test - Do you become more creative, accomplish more and respond to new experiences because of the love for the other person?
Respect test - Do you have confidence in the judgment of the other person? Do you respect the general mental abilities of the other person?
Habit test - Can you accept the other person with irritating habits and faults?
Quarrel test - Can you talk over disagreements and reach an understanding?
Time test - Has time proven that the love is based on more than emotions or attractions?
Space test - Has your love stood the tet of being seperated for a while?
Communication test - Are you able to listen to the other person's viewpoint and try to understand?
Romance test - Can you detect the spirit which will guarantee a continuing romance after marriage?
Responsibility test - is there a reason to believe the other person will accept responsibility that accompanies marriage?
*From the research of Mr. Leonilo M. Niere, there are clear signs of love.
20 comments:
very informative. i've leraned a lot.=)
ayiee!
ayus tong mga info ha ..
dami pala signs and indications when you're fallin '
hehe..
"Love is a very powerful human emotion that is hard to define." Yes. I been to all[not all] of the testing of Love. I have savored all that i have experienced under the loving process. it is very enriching and will make you mature and will give you more realization.
I would sometimes go crazy for it. hehe. ;)
in all relationships, the genuineness of love is always put into test that's why we think it's complicated. but it's only because we make it that way.
btw, nice post u have here... self Q and A.. for more realizations ung mkapag-moooni moooni naman.jst finished.hehe.
naConfuse ako?
love vs. infatuation.
waaayy
confused.
mr quincy na-inLove ka na ba?
Nice posts, I had fun reading.
on ewanko: yes, it is. thanks to my pastor-friend for researching about that.
on chief: yiz, ang dami. that's why many are confused.
kung di ka pa na in-love. be equipped na. hehe future sk chair!
on aethen: pawe, just don't go kwayzy. hehe i also learned a lot from a past experience.
on icka: salamat naman, somehow, na gustuhan mow. hehe yah, i agree with what you said..it wouldn't be complicated if they wouldn't make it that way.
on †alleicarg†: the versus doesn't really matter. what's important there is we must know the facts behind what we feel.
yes, twice.
you?
on ana: thanks ana and thanks also for the money-making advices.
to everyone, thanks for the comments..you can answer back here if there's any violent reactions on my replies..
again thanks..
once.
loving and hurting.
is painful love love?
lagi painful?
doesn't make sense eh?
toinks.
wow ganda naman ng post mo very eye opener talaga ^_^
on graciella: m sorry if you've been through a painful expereince grace. (likewise!)
but as what friends and parents often reiterate, no matter what life brings us, it wouldn't be so painful if we only learn how to accept. yes, acceptance is the right key to move on.
and you know, all things work together for good.
if he wasn't for you, if he hurt you that tough, if he messed up your life - he doesn't deserve you. God has someone better for you.
I don't know if i make sense telling that to you but things will just be complicated if you will make it that way.
And about the pain in loving? i think there's no such thing as painful love grace because it is already a prerequisite in loving to sacrifice, endure the pain, unconditionally give.
and looking at the bright side of everything (because we often have to visualize events that way) if there's no pain, would you learn your lessons? would you be a better individual today? without pain would you be stronger?
You can't.
Again, accept and move on. Remember, he's not worth dying for and it is not yet the end of the world.
I wish, i had answered your question.
on aice: thanks for the compliment aice. visit again ok?
and chei, i forgot to tell you.
it is also part of the "melodies of life". di ba?
wow.. that's very long.. XD love really cant be expressed in words, eh? there's so much to say about love that... sometimes... i dunno.. it's just hard to tell whether it's real or not.. (do i make any sense? XDDD hahaha)
gawsh... ive been seeing love fly everywhere today @_@ i just wish people would try to take time and read that too...! hehe! i love those sign of infatuation and love and genuiness... oh shoot.. im getting into thinking mode again XDD nice post there ^^
gosh..
my name. =)
kaw palang natawag skin sa cyberfrends.
mr quincy.. yup i know.
matigas lang ata talaga ulo ko..
thanks on your answer..
tama lahat.
kami parin, pero parang wala. sbi nga ni ch13f complicated.
i really appreciate the effort for the response.i should be happy for that. =)
nagiging tanga nanaman ako.
thanks for the hit.
hindi nko makapagExplain dito..
it's on my previous posts..
hope you could drop by..
http://alleicarg.blogspot.com/2007/04/ang-bilis-hayaan-mo-nga-xang-maglaway.html
Tagal ko na hindi nararamdaman yan pero i hope soon maramdaman ko ulit yan
micaela, all good things come to those who wait.
I love this post. Love is a fickle thing.
And about the pain in loving? i think there's no such thing as painful love grace because it is already a prerequisite in loving to sacrifice, endure the pain, unconditionally give.
--- nalaman ko po.. depende sa mamahalin.. ayoko na muna maging st. mother theresa..
ngee di pala ako naka follow dito noh..hehe
thanks for digging this up gracy.
your decisions depends on you..just give the best shot.
its awesome man ; actually love has no conjdition bt to check is it LOVE there r sum conditions which u hv to check
Love is patient, love is kind, love does not envy. Love does not boast, it's not proud; love's not rude nor self seeking. Love isn't easily angered it keeps no record of wrong; Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
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